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To all the friends of Annette/Richochette
Hi to you all, I would just like to refresh people's memory.
It has been brought to my attention that I may not be the good friend that I thought I was.
At the end of June my game crashed, I was at level 194, with amazing friends, when I lost it all and had to start again. I got a lot of my old friends back who have really helped me recover. However even though I am now at level 102 (I think), doesn't mean that I have gone through the game and done the same quests as someone else at that level.
My collection items are those that I have been given to me to help spear me back, and I find more often than not, that even now I'm coming back I still lack a lot of the collection items that my friends require. But as most of you know, if I have you can have it, even if it's my last one.
I do my best to be a good friend I gift and visit daily, and if I don't have the item you need then, I give what I can. I can't TT so I'm limited to 10 collection items per day, my collection catalogue isn't upto most people's at my level due to the fact that I have 90 friends and level up at least twice whilst visiting and not by completing collections.
I have so many kind and good friends and I honestly thought I was being a good friend back. Obviously I'm not and the PM I got today has knocked me off my feet (no I'm not going to admit to having a little cry because that could also be some of the grief).
I can only apologise to each and everyone of you, and totally understand if you choose to delete me and I'm sorry I have let you down, G'night all xxxxxxx
Answer from: Mimi2
Annette, There is no way that you let any of your friends down! You have always been generous and a positive voice here. Please do NOT let one negative individual's opinion ruin your day or your game. It took a lot of guts to start over and rebuild your game! I am glad that you did! You are a very good friend!
Answer from: sammie
Annette, you are always a good friend and always have been. So what if you can't gift everyone every day. I.too have just restarted from.a crash (i was level 394) and just now have gotten my game to where I'm ready to.play again. Please don't let one pm get you down. I know you are in at least one v of my friends list (ikenewton, jackblack, and sammiej). If you want to Jon me in any other that you're not b in, pm me. I will gladly addyou and don't care how often you visit. Ignore the pm.and remember you have a lot of good friends out there that will disagree with whatever they said. Cheer up and hope your day is better tomorrow:)
Answer from: Annette
Well I have been deleted because I am unable to give collection items everyday. I did let her get to me and I shouldn't of, but I'm better off without friends like that. I would never complain even if I got the same thing everyday. Oh well thanks guys. Xxxxx
Answer from: Ab
Oh, Annette, your post made me want to cry! Please don't let any one person get you down. I can only hope that the PM was a misunderstanding because you are a very good, very generous friend and I can't imagine anyone thinking otherwise. Maybe this someone was just having a bad day? For the life of me I can't understand it. It takes forever to stock up on collection items, especially the good stuff and you've bounced back so quickly it's to be expected that you cannot give everyone every item they've put in their WLs. Consider yourself hugged and just know that you are much appreciated by me and tons and tons of others. XOXO, Ab
Answer from: Asnyder959
Don't be upset. This is a community and a game. If anyone wants to be so cranky to pm you a nasty message.......have the pleasure to delete her first. Andrea
Answer from: Bluebell
Annette, I can't believe someone would say that you weren't a good friend, it's really not true, please don't think that you're not a good friend because you are! Some people are lucky and can TT so there's no pressure, if you exceed the 50/10 gift limit you just go back and get another 50/10 and play like that until you've gifted everyone. I am very fortunate that I can do this, I often wonder how I would manage with the limit G5 gives players, it must be so difficult trying to be fair. I never expect anyone to send the same quantity of gifts that I send, many of my friends don't or can't TT. I just appreciate getting a gift every now and again and certainly don't expect daily gifts. You've had a tough time with your game crashing and you're trying to get back to where you were. You have also had a difficult time in your personal life too and your friends understand this. I am just happy that I've been able to help you with your game and I would never delete you. NO apologies are needed, you're a great friend Annette :) hope you're able to forget what this person said and enjoy playing again. You're better off without a "friend" like that! xxx
Answer from: ChrisAngel
Hi Annette, don't let this get you down. I certainly will not delete you as I know that you send your friends what you can. Also it is difficult for those of us who do not TT to send the same amount of gifts as those who do. I think you deserve a medal to start over again after crashing at level 194. Best wishes Chris.
Answer from: GeeGo
Aw, Annette, sorry to hear that. Don't feel bad. I time travel, and I still can't send collection items to everyone on my list. What others said; chalk it up to a bad day, and play on.
Answer from: Shen
You are a VERY GOOD friend! I find that message you got appalling and selfish. I hope you get some comfort from our support.
Answer from: Annette
I thought that she was obviously very upset with me, as she has deleted me and even blocked on CC so I can't explain to her. But with her having this view wasn't sure how many others were thinking the same.
Now I know she is in a minority of her own, thanks guys, gifting done so now I'm off to bed. Xxxxxxx
Answer from: Anita
Hi Annette! I am shocked and deeply saddened to hear that someone from our forum would write you a PM like that! I like to see the best in people so I'm really hoping it was a misunderstanding! I count you as a very good friend! My definition of being a good friend is probably different to some people. I have friends in my friend list that only give me gifts once a week and I haven't deleted them! In my eyes the people I count as good friends are the ones I have made a connection with on this site! It does not matter in the slightest how many gifts they give me each day! As Bluebell said, I'm lucky that I'm able to time travel because I truly love helping my friends. I do not expect my friends to give me the same amount of gifts back.
Giving you great big cyber hugs! You have had so much to deal with lately and I really hope that anytime you are feeling down you will come back and read this thread to know how much we care about you!
Answer from: Mare
Okay.... What everyone said and more!
I tried to post 3 times and couldn't figure out what was wrong until I saw I wasn't logged on! DUH!
I love having you as my friend! You are amazinglydeliciousoso!
Answer from: hzandroid
Hi Annette, believe me, you are a good friend like all the others told you. Don't care about this pm.
Answer from: 3Dee
Desiderata a poem by Max Erman quote "AVOID ALL PERSONS WHO VEX YOU". It's the best ever life advice poem I've ever had the pleasure to read. Go on google it folks you will love it too. He wrote it way back in 1937 or sometime ancient like that.
LOVE TO YOU ANNETTE.
Answer from: orchidgirl619
Wow. I am like you in the way that I've been leveling up at least once a day especially when I visit all my friends. But yes, does not mean I have unlocked certain items or collections as I seriously haven't been playing much. I actually spend most of my time either chagrin or gifting. I hope I never get a PM like that! If you say she's a pretty high level friend as you once were then she should know the challenges some people are having and especially the limitations of the game if people do not TT. I'd say she wasn't a real friend after all.
Answer from: RoyalOne
I pm'd you Annette. Don't let this one person undermine your well being! You are a great friend and are too funny for words at times!
Answer from: Pianosam
I have noticed lately that there are some who want friends who visit and gift daily. If that is their wish so be it. I have friends that don't time travel and to me what they give is valuable BECAUSE they give everything they can. You have been a wonderful friend stuck with me when things got rough and THAT is a friend! Remember you are appreciated for more than your gifting. I love reading some of your posts; they make my day. As you can see friends stick together.
Answer from: Figjam
WOW! I am shocked, stunned and amazed that someone from this forum has been so nasty. I count myself lucky everyday for the coin glitch when isos updated because that is what made me find this place. A safe haven full of lovely people who are just as addicted (some far far more!) to SS as I am. I am grateful for all the friends I have found here, the ones who send me 20 gifts a day and the ones who send me 1 gift every 4 days are all equal in my eyes. I play because I love the game and I gift as I do because I love my friends and have the abbility to time travel. You Annette have been a true friend to everyone here. With everything going on in you life at the moment you still made time to come here and congratulate people on milestones or to give advice. You are a truely courageous woman and that 1 person is NOT worthy of your friendship anyway. We all love ya hun ;)
Answer from: Shorty
I echo what everyone else has said. It is upsetting to think someone from our group would write you a message like that. We are all supposed to be friends here, build each other up and help each other. Even if someone did have a problem with you, which I can't imagine by the way, why not just quietly delete you and move on. Why do they have to write you a message and make you feel bad. You are a sweet, loving, caring person. You are very courageous. Starting over like you did. That's not easy. You have climbed very quickly so of course you don't have a huge inventory of collectibles. Who wouldn't understand that. Please don't let this stop you from being the awesome person that you are. We all love you.
Answer from: Picblu
Oh Annette ! How awful that someone had the gall to be so negative and mean. You are a steady, reliable, good and above all funny friend. I think that most people in this game, including myself enjoy not only receiving gifts but giving, seeing people come back from the depths of crashes, being a part of some ones recovery. We like seeing people reach their goals and reach milestones. We feel for others who have had woes in the game and in life. There is no room for negativity here. I was honored when you took me on as a friend and I am honored today to still be one of your friends. I hope that somewhere out there, the person who hurt you is reading all these posts so they know how unacceptable that behavior is. I hope that person is not on my friend list. So Annette hold your head up, know that we care about you, and get back to the game. And so we go....
Answer from: Katydid
Annette, A very wise person gave me some advice years ago that has served me well. He said, "someone else can make you unhappy 'only' if you allow them to do so." Do not allow this person to dull your shining personality. Feel pity for them instead. Their life must be so very narrow and unsatisfying for them to think your gifting, or anyone else's for that matter, is a reason to lash out and be so critical. You are such a joy to have as a friend! Hugs to you.
Answer from: NINA
I can't believe it. People have said that I was good even when I was a bad friend. I'm having a hard time imagining someone who has less of a life than me to take the time to write a nasty message over something so.stupid. Maybe you could reply and remind the former friend that this is a game, and mention that antipsychotics are daily medicines and ask did they forget a dose.
Answer from: LoisH
Huhhhh? Different strokes for different folks and all that..... Not a friend you need, so good riddance. You have no need to apologize!
Answer from: kyoko
I am so sorry you had to read that PM! I hope you can forget it after reading what all your TRUE friends here have written. You are a great friend. Please keep enjoying the game and leveling up as you can. Hugs to you!
Answer from: Bookworm
What?! That is so untrue, Annette. I find it shocking that someone would write such an message to you or to anyone for that matter. It is a game. An enjoyable, frustrating, aggravating game. We are friends on both of my SS games and you are a good friend within the game and on this forum. There are so many supportive people within this community who clearly strongly disgree with this individual. I hope that you are able to scrub that message from your brain and focus on the words that others have written to you instead. Hugs,
Answer from: Sam123
We all play for different reasons and have different goals and time available. In life and in games, some friendships do not work out. You are blessed that this person has walked out of your game life. You have an abundance remaining. Including those of us who are not on your list but who value your input on this board. Your obligations have lightened. Be blessed and enjoy the game.
Answer from: Kathie
Well I will add my two cents, Annette you've been my friend for a long time now and I couldn't ask for a better one. It's not about how much you gift but that you pop in now and again, I enjoy the posts more than the gifts. I, like others am shocked and very saddened that someone made you cry. Funny I just sent you a bouquet of roses for the drivers license. I TT now but didn't for a long time and struggled to rotate everyone. You can only do what you can do. I know how one negative thing can take over but I think you have enough positive comments on this page to wipe out the negative. Just keep being you.
Answer from: Gewlia
You are an amazing friend, any gift is appreciated! Don't let it get you down as you can see we all love you!
Answer from: cr91958
Annette, please don't take this on in any way. It isn't worth the time or energy at all. Obviously you are surrounded by people who would be proud and happy to count you as a friend both in Secret Society life as well as , I dare say, in Real Life also. The thing I really value about this forum is all the support, good energy, and nice people that seem to really make an effort to reach out to each other in a genuine way. It goes way beyond the game itself. Why else would we bother to check in on this forum daily? Let yourself be upheld and showered with the positive feedback that this thread has shown. You are a wonderful friend and I am glad to consider you one of mine!
Answer from: Charles
We have a saying here about telling someone to go pound sand. You have been a great friend in this game. Don't change a thing.
Answer from: Fonda2
Well Annette you have been my friend only a short while, and a good one, thank you very much. If some one is being unkind then be glad they are gone from the game, it's bad enough in reality to run into people like that you don't need them in your game world.
Answer from: PKP01
Dear Annette, Please, please don't let one cranky individual get you down. You are a terrific friend, and I'm glad to number you among my crew. As others have said, I value my friends, whether or not they are high level or low, whether they TT or not, and whether they send collection items, combining elements, or just a bug or carrot now and then. Hun, you consistently make my day with your posts on the chat boards, and every time I get to your name/avatar (I do confess that I miss your daughter's photo, though!), I smile as I click to see how I can help you, today. You've rebuilt amazingly fast, and I'm proud of you for having the courage to start over after your game disaster.
There do seem to be a few people who see "friends" as a means to an end -- more stuff, more visits/charging, really on the "what can they do for ME" wavelength -- instead of as a wonderful chance to connect, help, and care reciprocally for one another. Nitty described this attitude, once, as treating people like "hens in the barnyard." If they don't provide eggs, they end up being chicken soup. Well, you don't need anyone to make YOU into soup, so remind yourself that you are not a chicken and that the vast majority of your friends would respect and honor you for who you are, rather than for what you can do for them.
Wow. Didn't mean to write a sermon -- but I guess your experience hit a nerve.
Answer from: Mare
Annette... You are an AMAZING friend!
Glad she can't take your joy anymore... Be glad to be blocked!
I love the fact that you are so willing to share... Example: the prom experience for all of us! I laughed so much and was so happy for you and your daughter! That is what makes you a wonderful human being!
Thanks for being my "Gammie" (Friend on game!)
Answer from: Janieloveday
Annette, I am UTTERLY ASTONISHED that anyone could call you a bad friend! I want to echo all the good stuff everyone else here has said about you - I have always thought you were a real sweetie. It has been a great pleasure for me to try and help you back up after your crash and I shall continue to do so. Big hugs....
Answer from: RoyalOne
Well said PKP. If you all aren't familiar with the poem Dee mentioned up above, 'Desiderata', please check it out. It truly is words to live by.
Answer from: Sue
Hi Annette :-) It sounds like another greedy player :-( I can't believe they've deleted, pm'ed and blocked you! Xanthus just posted that she just sent a new friend 4-5 months worth of gifts and they deleted her too! You can just never please some people these days :-( You are loved by many on this site :-) Sending you lots of hugs ooooooooooooooooo
Answer from: chrissie Up
Just to say Annette, I echo everyone's comments! Big hugs to you and please know we love you xoxox
Answer from: Weezer
Wow, Annette after so many responses idk if you'll even get to read this far but I completely agree with everyone else. I can't tt either and was just feeling kind of bad earlier when I got to you gifting because I never have what's on your wl. I always seem to be sending you a carrot or something and I wish I could be a better friend to you. If whoever this person was reads this I hope they realize their huge mistake. No worries, you're a good friend and are obviously surrounded by good friends. Cheer up! :) You're better off without friends like that anyway. :)
Answer from: Annette
OMG WOW, I don't really don't know what to say, I have read each and comment one by one, and yes you've done it you have made me speechless, (which as the kids will say is very hard to do), I was on top of the world after passing my driving test, because it means so much, I can get Ivy out of the house so she can take her mind off Bill, then I read my PM and it really knocked me off my feet.
It's obvious that I have made some truly amazing friends on here, both in game & in life and your comments have put me back on top of the world thank you so much especially Nina and her "antipsychotics".
And yes I'm well rid of bad vibes and bad friends, I'll never be able to repay any of you for kind living words and support. I must admit it has took me all my time not to Name & Shame, but I'm better than that I hope. But just remeber some of you have this person as a friend.
Thank you, thank you, THANK YOU all of you your amazing now I'm off to find and read the poem, XxXxXxXxXx
Answer from: Anita
H Annette! So glad to hear that you are on top of the world again! I really admire the fact that you didn't name the player and rose above it! That takes real strength of character! Just remember to read this thread if you are ever feeling low. You are an amazing, generous, kind hearted person with a great sense of humour! The fact that you got so many caring and thoughtful responses is testament to who you are as a person! I think you have touched each one of us! What a great reason to get your driver's license too! Ivy is blessed to have such a wonderful neighbour!
Answer from: Picblu
Well Annette I hoped you'd be mad enough to name and shame. It would be such a scandal! But that's not what we re about here on CC. This is usually a positive and uplifting place to come . I like what sam123 said that in life and in games some friendships don't work out . You have an abundance of good people here.
Answer from: Annette
I really am over whelmed by the response, naming and shaming would make me as bad as they are, and I want to be able to this forum the community we've made it, because together we have, we live we learn we moan. All here in our own little spot in cyber space. It was just a very disappointing glitch that I think everybody here has told me, what was said isn't true.
The person responsible has read these comments and it has pushed her to apologise, although it would of been nice for her to apologise because she thought she was out of order, but we can't have everything. And there my friends the drama comes to an end.
But I could never repay. The kind words any of of you had said here, so thank you all so very much xxxxxxxoooxxxxxxxxxxooxxxxxxxxxooxxxxxx
Answer from: OliUDx2
Annette, that person can go jump in the lake. I think you're an awesome friend! You rock to one end of the universe and back again. That person is not worth the tears. I don't expect anything from you! You put a broad smile on my face when you just visit! Thankyou and don't worry! :))))))))). Oli. Xx
Answer from: BA
Like everyone here I am shocked that someone will take the time to write such a PM. It's just a game people. Please don't let it get to you or now have you worried about what we think. We love you just the way you are. Just like in life, you win some and lose some, oh well. Look around and see how many are still here for you, so you lost one because they want to be lost so what. Keep your head up hun.
Answer from: Sharon
Glad you are feeling better.from all I've read on this site, you bring joy and laughter to many...even those, like me who are not friends. Like you I don't time travel but my good friends haven't deleted me because of it. We have a great group on this site.
Answer from: Annette
Wow I can't tell you how overwhelmed I am from all of your comments, I think because of well we work on here it was just more shocking. But I really can't believe I've made such an impact on all of you, thank you so much, I'll never forget any of these posts thank you so much, xxx
Answer from: SandyK4
If they are a friend of mine they can delete me too.
Answer from: BCgirl231
Sorry to hear someone was mean to you Annette. I haven't been on in a few days so sorry for the late post. You're a great friend and I'm happy to be your friend and have you as a friend and that other person is way out of line. I'm glad to hear that all the posts above have lifted your spirits in the meantime. Enjoy the game and your GOOD friends.
Answer from: RatSeeker
Oh my- I can't believe anyone was so mean!
I generally send a combining element each day and a collection item if I have one (generally I have 10 or less friends requesting them) and I generally visit at least every other day. I don't TT. I was afraid to take on friends at all, then started by keeping a very low amount of friends, as I was afraid to disappoint anyone. But all my friends- including you- are awesome! As long as I see they've popped onto my board here and there and send me gifts every few days I'm happy. You ARE a good friend, no matter what someone pmed you! If I got a pm like that, I'd just tell the person to delete me. I can only do so much. You have more friends than I do and do more than me!